I have a couple of new Aspergers teens in my practice. One does not have much interest in making friends, and actually has quite a set of “imaginary” friends. She is resistant to learning social skills and making new friends, but her her aunt (her legal guardian would like her to attend counseling every week. Should I try to motivate this young lady to forge new friendships? Donna T. – Social Skills Central member
There are many reasons why teens with Asperger Syndrome may not be interested in making friendships. Many teens on the Spectrum simply aren’t that connected to others, and don’t seem to have the same social needs as typical teens. Others may want to have friends and to be accepted by their peer group, but they may have been teased or bullied or failed at so many attempts to be social that they just aren’t motivated to pursue friendships. Whatever the reason for this teen’s lack of motivation, she will always live in a social world, and you should certainly work on helping her understand how to get along with others, which includes learning a variety of of social communication skills. Social skills groups are the best way to teach these skills if they are available.
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